When you break up with a partner, it’s easy to think that they want nothing more to do with you. But many people who have recently split from their partners are actually still interested in getting back together again. The problem is that they don’t know how to express this interest without seeming too desperate or needy.
But there are signs your ex might be trying to get back together-signs which could range from the subtle (such as an allusion) to the very obvious (such as them coming out and telling you). Here are 11 of those signs my ex girlfriend wants me back:
Texting after not hearing from them for a long time
When a person makes you wait to hear from them, it’s safe to assume that they’re not ready to talk. But when your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend texts you out of the blue after not hearing from them for days, weeks, or months—or responds quickly after you text them, it could mean they want more than to just be friends.
It might even be a sign that they miss you and are trying to work up the courage to reach out to you in a different way and make amends. They may also have been busy with work or personal commitments.
Of course, this doesn’t mean there’s no chance of getting back together with your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend if they suddenly decide to reach out to you after not talking for a while.
Calling you out of the blue
If your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend has been calling you out of the blue, it could be a sign that they miss you and want to make amends. They might even just want to apologize for how things ended between the two of you, but they’re not sure what to say. Calling your ex when they’ve been gone from your life for a while is a way of trying to work their courage up. But it could also be a sign they are trying to make amends, or that your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend has changed their mind about wanting to end the relationship.
Sending mixed signals
A sign that your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend may want to get back together with you is when they start sending mixed signals. They might be pulling away from you and not giving an explanation as to why, but the next moment they’re texting or calling you. That could mean your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend is trying to figure out what they want and feel guilty about the time they spent apart. It’s also possible that your ex wanted to end the relationship, but now has changed their mind and wants a second chance.
Changes in behavior
Your girlfriend or boyfriend might also be sending out mixed signals when they seem happy one day then the next day seem down in the dumps. This may just be due to normal mood swings, but it could also be a sign that they are working through the process of deciding whether or not they want to get back together with you. Some people say that when your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend seems in a good mood, it could mean that getting back together is on their mind but isn’t at the top of their list just yet. It might take a bit of time before they feel comfortable enough to bring up the subject with you, so waiting it out might be worth your while.
Talking about their previous relationship with you whenever they can
Talking about their previous relationship with you whenever they can might be a sign that your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend is trying to work through the process of getting back together. They are trying to work up the courage to tell you how much they miss you and want to spend more time with you. It’s possible that this will take some time, and until then, it’s best not to bring up the topic because it may make your ex feel uncomfortable.
When your ex suddenly starts openly talking about their previous relationship with you, that’s a good sign that they want to give it another try.
Turning up places where they know you will be
Another sign your ex could be sending is when they turn up out of the blue somewhere where you’re sure to be. This might take place at a place they know you’re going to be at a certain time. For example, if your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend knows that you frequent the gym after work every day, it might not just be a coincidence if they show up there one day. At first glance, this may seem like an innocent mistake on their part, but taking into consideration everything else, we could be seeing another clear sign your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend is thinking about getting back with you.
Inviting you to hang out with them
Maybe your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend is just being friendly and asks you to go out for a coffee with them sometime. But maybe they might be inviting you over to their place or to hang out if they’re going somewhere you might enjoy yourself, too. This could be another clear sign that your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend wants to get back together with you. It all depends on how it’s worded and the type of invite they are extending, so watch out for signs of intimacy in their invitation.
Asking about you
Another sign your ex may want to get back together with you is when they start asking about your life. If they are usually in touch with you and the other day they suddenly text you asking how everything is going, it’s possible that they have been thinking a lot about you. This could be a sign that their feelings have changed and they now want to make up for lost time.
Being super nice to you whenever they see you
If your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend is being super nice to you when they see you, that could be a sign that they’re seeing you in a new light. Some people say that the kindness might be just a fleeting moment and doesn’t necessarily mean anything, but it’s possible that they’re realizing how much they miss you and are trying to get back together with you. If this has been going on for a while now and your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend is showing signs of missing you, then it could be worth considering getting back together with them.
Asking about your relationship status
One way to tell if they want you back is if they start asking about your relationship status. They might ask you whether or not you are seeing anyone else and how often do we end up talking without mentioning your relationship status? These questions could be direct evidence that getting back together with them has been on their mind.
Asking to hang out in a double date with you and your current girlfriend
A clear sign that your ex wants to get back together with you is when they ask to be on a double date with you and your current girlfriend. It might not seem like much, but it could be a really important step in the process of trying to get back together with you. They may not be asking right away and may need some time to work up the courage to approach you about it, but once they do have the chance, they might end up telling you how much they miss being with you. This might be a sign that they really want to get back together with you and are trying to find the right way to approach it.
Final Words
However you can’t assume these signs mean that your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend is trying to get back together with you. It could just be them being friendly and taking an interest in how you’re doing. Try not to let yourself get carried away with these signs, as sometimes there are things we want to believe so badly that we end up looking too deeply into things.
Do your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend want more than to just be friends? It’s possible that this might be the case, but until they come out and say it directly, there’s no way for you to know for sure.
However, if you’re still having feelings for them and feel like getting back together with them, then you could make the first move by having a serious discussion about where your relationship is going. It’s possible that as long as you are open and honest with them, there is a chance they might want to give it another shot!