Is it wrong to talk to your ex when you’re in a relationship? It’s an age-old question, and one that many people ask themselves. However, the answer is not so simple as yes or no. There are many reasons why someone might want to reach out to their ex. Some of these might be: loneliness, boredom with current partner, curiosity about how life has been going for them since they cut ties, etc. Whether this contact is innocent or hurtful will depend on the situation and the person involved; some relationships can handle talking again after being broken off while others cannot. So how do you know if it’s a good idea?
Why do people want to talk to their exes when they’re in a relationship?
1. People want to talk to their exes because they still have feelings for them.
In this situation, the person might feel nostalgic for their past and want to reminisce about what they had. They may also have unresolved feelings that are manifested through talking again. Many people can’t just let go of a relationship without closure so they’ll use conversation as an outlet for their feelings. However, if these conversations lead back into something more serious and they get back together, this person will have to end their current relationship.
2. They think that if they don’t, the other person will always be in their life and it’s too hard.
In this situation, the person might be scared to let go. They may not really want their ex in their life but they’re clinging on because it’s easier than starting something new with someone else who can’t replace what they had with that person. The problem is that if you continue talking for too long and without closure, your current partner can feel like they’re being replaced.
3. They’re curious about what happened after they broke up with them.
The person might want to find out what their ex has been up to since they broke up. They may be curious about how it feels not to have them in their life anymore and wonder if maybe going back would change anything for the better. But talking again could lead into a full-blown relationship with someone who doesn’t fit the same in their life as before.
4. Some people are just lonely and need someone to listen or talk to.
In this situation, the person might be missing their ex. They may not have anyone else in their life to talk to and don’t want to go back home because it’s too painful. If they’re talking about getting back together or being friends though, that’s a different story.
5. It can seem like a punishment for not being able to get over your ex-partner.
Some people might feel like they’re being punished for not being able to let go. They may try talking again and hope that it would make their current partner angry enough to leave them.
6. Some people find talking about their past relationship therapeutic as well as an opportunity for closure.
Talking again can be therapeutic because it gives closure to a relationship that someone might have been holding onto. This could also give the person some new perspective or even help them realize that they don’t want to go back.
How avoid talking to ex while in a relationship?
1. Don’t give them your phone number
If you’re not willing to talk with them for whatever reason, don’t give them your phone number or social media information. This will ensure that they won’t be able to contact you and cause any confusion.
2. Change your contact information to an alternate email address
If you don’t want to give them your number and they keep trying, change all of the contact information associated with your old relationship to an alternate email address. This way, you’ll be able to keep your contact information private and not have any issues with them getting in touch because they won’t be able to find you.
If you’re still not convinced that it’s a bad idea to talk with them, turn off any notifications for posts from your ex on social media. This will keep you from seeing their posts and having the chance to talk with them.
4. Ignore texts and emails they send you
If you receive any texts or emails from your ex, do not respond to them at all. Ignoring their messages will keep the lines of communication open just enough to avoid any confusion or hurt feelings.
5. Avoid going out in public places where it’s likely that you’ll run into them (i.e., the grocery store)
If you have to go out in public and there’s a risk of running into your ex, it might be best not to. Try going on a walk with a friend or staying in and watching Netflix instead.
6. Don’t answer the phone when he calls.
You don’t need to get into a conversation with him or answer any of his questions. Just say “I’m sorry, I can’t talk right now.” and hang up the phone. You’re not obligated to be nice, but you should always avoid being cruel.
7. Don’t be friends with him on Facebook.
You can still see his posts, but you shouldn’t respond or comment to them. You don’t have to unfriend him if he’s not posting anything about you – it doesn’t mean that much anyway.
Here are some questions to ask yourself before reaching out: What is your motivation for contacting them? Why do you feel the need to contact them instead of staying in touch with friends and family members? Is there anything that might lead your ex on or make him/her think there’s a chance things can be what they were between you two before? Have you been feeling lonely or unhappy lately? How does your current relationship feel about this contact?
If your reasons for contacting them are innocent and there doesn’t seem to be any chance of confusion, then you might want to reach out. But if not, it’s probably best not to contact the ex anymore at all. Even though it may feel good in the moment or they may sound just like how you remember them when talking on the phone, it’s never worth the risk of causing any confusion.
What is your motivation for contacting them?
Your current partner may feel neglected or ignored. You might be feeling lonely and want someone to talk to. There are many reasons why people want to reach out, but the most important question that needs answering is whether this contact will cause any confusion between you two or hurt feelings if it continues. If you’re feeling lonely or unhappy lately, it might be a good idea to stay away from your ex and reach out to friends instead.